How well do you know the people who matter most to you?
Chances are you know many things about them simply because there are memories you share with them-those moments in life you experienced together- and the family stories that are recounted over and over.
However, that's often just the surface.
You may know what happened on the day you graduated from high school - you could see your parents beaming proudly in the crowd. But have you ever asked your dad what he was feeling that day?
You have heard the family stories about your parents wedding-the minister mispronouncing your mom's name and the funny song your uncle sang at the reception. But have you ever asked your mom what she was thinking the moment before she started walking down the aisle?
Although we may know about some of the significant people, places and events that have shaped the lives of our loved ones, we don't know everything.
Sitting down with loved ones to talk about their lives can be rich and satisfying, Learning about memorable events, people, places, values and lessons they have learned can help bring you closer to people you care about most.
Sharing stories with loved ones can help you get to know them in new and different ways and can deepen and strengthen your relationship with them. Taking can help you (and them) better understand the life they lead-and give both of you a new appreciation for their unique life story
Memorialization at the end of life is more than it used to be. It can reflect a person’s life story and be transformative, healing and comforting. Meaningful memorialization starts when loved ones talk about what matters most: memories made, lessons learned and how they hope to be remembered.
Finding a way to start talking with a loved one may be the most difficult part; you might find, however, that once the conversation starts, it may be hard to stop.